COACHING WITH KURTIS MERCER

Regulate your fire. Heal your marriage. Walk in purpose.

You’ve watched the videos. You’ve read the posts.
Now it’s time to go deeper — into your own story.

This isn’t therapy. It’s not hype.
It’s guided transformation — rooted in the KTL and powered by presence, compassion, and truth.

I coach men who are tired of reacting — snapping, shutting down, or numbing out — and who are ready to learn what peace actually feels like in real life.

Every session follows a simple, powerful flow — designed to move you from chaos to clarity.

The Present Problem

You come in with what’s real right now.
Maybe it’s your marriage, your anger, your anxiety — the thing that keeps stealing your peace.

We start by creating safety.
No judgment. No quick fixes.
Just calm, connection, and truth.
(Polyvagal work: getting you back to ventral.)

How It Works

What brings you to a joyful state it could be as simple as looking at a picture of a Baby Hippo

It's about establishing safety - Fun, Curious, Excited, Joyful connection.

Get to the Root

Once you feel grounded, we go beneath the surface.

We explore:

What emotions are really underneath this?
What story did you start believing about yourself or God?
What did that younger version of you need back then?

You’ll start seeing how your body, beliefs, and past experiences all tie together.

That’s when patterns stop feeling random — and start making sense.

Apply the Framework (KTL Pillars)

Here’s where it gets real.
We connect your struggle to one of the Kurtis Teaching Library pillars —
whether it’s Fire, Storm, Shame & Blame, or The Matrix of Dysregulation.

This is where you realize:

“I’m not broken — I’m dysregulated.”

You’ll see what’s actually happening in your nervous system, and how to shift back into balance with clarity instead of shame.

Reframe & Resource

Every storm, every trigger, every fire you face connects back to these pillars.

This is where the real work happens — learning the language of your nervous system so you can master it instead of being ruled by it.

Now we bring in The Compassion Method.

We slow down.
We invite God into the moment.
We listen for His truth in the middle of the mess.

You’ll speak compassion to that younger self who’s still carrying the weight.

You’ll begin to feel what it’s like when love sits with your pain instead of trying to fix it.

That’s where healing starts.

Empower & Integrate

We end every session with something practical you can use right away —
breathwork, grounding, a prayer exercise, or a short journaling prompt.

You’ll walk away not just encouraged, but equipped.
Because insight without action doesn’t transform — integration does.

Keep the Momentum

Between sessions, I’ll give you 1–2 small steps that build on what we did.

Each one connects back to the KTL pillar we used that week.

The goal is continuity — healing that compounds.

Closing Thoughts

You don’t come to coaching because life is easy.
You come because you’re done pretending it doesn’t hurt.

This work isn’t about fixing what’s broken — it’s about remembering who you are when you’re grounded, safe, and connected to God.

It’s not therapy. It’s not a pep talk.
It’s training for the storm — emotional, spiritual, and practical.

You’ll learn to:

Feel your emotions without being ruled by them.
Regulate your nervous system when life hits hard.
Turn your fire from destruction into direction.
Rebuild your relationships with honesty and courage.

You won’t walk out of here “healed.”
You’ll walk out aware, anchored, and ready.

Because peace isn’t the absence of storms —
it’s knowing who you are when the waves hit.

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