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You’re Not Fine — You’re Numb: Breaking Free from Emotional Numbness

  • kurtis786
  • Oct 12
  • 3 min read
Kurtis Mercer speaking into a microphone wearing sunglasses and a patterned sleeve shirt, with bold white text reading “FINE OR NUMB?” beside the shadowed silhouette of a man against a deep red background — representing emotional numbness, hidden struggle, and the illusion of being “fine.”

The Lie of “Fine” — and the Truth About Emotional Numbness

Bro… you are not fine. You’re numb.


That’s not balance — that’s emotional numbness pretending to be stability.

“Fine.” What does that even mean?

You think because you smile for the picture, grab a beer with the boys, hit the gym — you’re good?

You think because nobody sees the storm inside you, it means it’s not there?

That’s not “fine.” That’s faking stable while your soul’s glitching in the background.

The Weekend Costume

Half the people you hang with don’t even know you. They know your weekend costume — the guy who laughs at the bar, cracks a joke outside for a smoke.

But the second you stop showing up for the hangout? They stop showing up for you.

They don’t ask how you really are — ’cause they can’t even handle their own silence.

You’re all distracting each other from your pain.

The Sensitive One

And you? You’re the sensitive one. Not weak — aware.

You feel more. You think deeper.

But instead of owning that, you keep stuffing yourself into their mold because that’s what “normal men” do.

“Yo bro, we don’t talk feelings, we talk engines.”“Real men don’t cry, they grind.”

Yeah, and then they hit forty with no emotional range and call it stoicism.

Listen — you can love football and cars. That’s fine. But if that’s all you can talk about, you’re not living — you’re looping.

Emotional Groundhog Day

The world shut down once and half of y’all lost your identities.

Why?

’Cause the gym closed. The bar shut down. The mask came off and the real person underneath didn’t know who he was anymore.

That’s numbness, bro. That’s your personality stuck in autopilot.

Same weekend. Same people. Same conversations.

You call it “routine.” I call it emotional Groundhog Day.

The Soul Wants Out

You ever catch yourself halfway through a night out thinking,

“Bro… this used to be fun. Now it’s just noise”?

That’s your soul wanting out. That’s your system saying, “I need something real.”

You’re bored because your spirit’s starving.

And that boredom — that restlessness — that’s not weakness. That’s the wake-up call.

Real Men Don’t Numb — They Notice

Real men don’t numb out — they notice. They don’t fake “fine” — they face what’s actually going on. They know how to be alone without falling apart.

Isolation isn’t punishment, bro. It’s the forge.

It’s where you stop performing and start hearing your own voice again.

When you sit with yourself long enough, you realize most of what you called “fun” was just avoidance.

And when you stop chasing the next distraction, you start to feel alive again.

Waking Up

So yeah — you’re not fine. You’re numb.

But that doesn’t mean you’re broken — it means you’re waking up.

You’ve outgrown the shallow stuff. You’ve seen through the noise.

Now it’s time to build something real — friendships that go deeper than memes and match scores, peace that doesn’t depend on the next dopamine hit.

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You’re not fine — you’re numb. And that’s okay.

Because the moment you finally admit it… you start to feel again.

(half-smile, head nod) That’s Big Merc talkin’. 🔥

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