Patience Is Strength: Christian Men Patience and Discomfort

kurtis786
Sep 29
3 min read

Updated: Oct 1

Christian man podcast teaching on patience and strength — how Christian men patience builds resilience, emotional regulation, and faith in marriage.

Why Christian Men Patience Builds Strength in Discomfort

One of the most powerful healing tools you can build is patience.

Most men don’t sit with pain. They scramble to fix it, to relieve it, to escape it.

That’s what’s really happening when you blow up your wife’s phone after a fight. You’re not just trying to talk. You’re trying to get rid of the discomfort.

Learning the Hard Way

I learned this the hard way.

There was a fight early in my marriage where my wife needed space. But instead of giving it to her, I called, texted, called again.

Deep down, I wasn’t looking for connection — I was looking for relief from my own anxiety. I couldn’t sit with the feeling of being unwanted, or not in control.

The more I pushed, the more she pulled away. I thought I was fixing things. Really, I was making it worse.

It wasn’t until later, when I began to practice Christian men patience, that I realized — the discomfort I was running from wasn’t going to kill me. It was going to shape me.

The Workout Analogy

Think about working out.

When you first start lifting, it strains you. It hurts — not just in your body but in your mind. It feels boring, like you’d do anything to distract yourself.

But over time, something changes. The adrenaline kicks in. The pain turns into pleasure. The struggle turns into growth.

That’s what patience does. It builds strength you don’t get any other way.

Why Patience is Strength

When you run from discomfort, you blow up your relationships by pushing too hard. You make bad decisions out of panic. You stay trapped in the cycle of regret.

But when you learn to sit in the fire, you gain clarity. You give space for your wife or kids to breathe. You allow God to do the work in you instead of trying to force it yourself.

That’s why patience is strength.

How to Build Patience

So how do you build it?

Notice the urge. Pay attention to the moment you want to “fix” things right away. That’s your signal.
Pause. Step back. Breathe. Count to 100 if you have to. Give your nervous system time to settle.
Reframe. Instead of seeing discomfort as punishment, see it as training. A forge moment.
Stay present. Don’t distract yourself endlessly. Stay with the tension, pray, breathe, wait.