Transformation Is a Grueling Process

Transformation is a grueling process to change from who you are currently into somebody that you are not.

That, in that moment, in that current state of being, you are not that other person. But you're trying to change yourself, your whole identity, what you believe to be true, how you see yourself, and how you view other people.

Like, if you believe that the world is a place that is filled with people that are surviving and people that are just struggling day to day, well, then you are going to attract that into your life.

And I don't believe in the law of attraction. That's not what I'm talking about here. This cosmic force that, if you just think positively or negatively, then you will attract what you think about.

This is actually embedded in neuroscience and the idea—or the fact—that your nervous system actually has an energy signature. You could call it, in a sense, emotional energy.

Where, when you are feeling and you're having those thoughts of, "The world is a terrible place," and "Things are just not gonna get better," and "The cost of living keeps going up," and all that stuff, basically that is a narrative that is playing in your head.

And you might think, just because you're hearing on social media and even maybe from your neighbors at this point, that the world is an unsafe place and unpredictable and just chaotic, and people are just surviving, and all of these different things.

But again, that is just a perception of reality.

And that perception of reality—what you're seeing and what you're hearing from other people—is because of their nervous systems, that they are stuck in these patterns of fear.

And the fear has ground. It has a landing pad in them because of the things that they experienced.

Neglectful parents. A living situation that wasn't stable as a child.

You know, two parents, for example, that were divorced. Growing up with a lot of movement. Maybe your family did a lot of moving around the country, or maybe even moved to another country.

And so you never had stability.

Maybe there was physical abuse or other abuse as a child.

But again, it could also just be your parents were working 24/7, and so they just didn't have the time to raise you properly in the sense of—yes, they gave you food and they gave you shelter and all that stuff, of course.

And in some cases they didn't.

But in most cases they did, and they loved you to the degree that they could do that themselves.

And so, basically, when you grew up, you had a strange idea of how to express emotion, or you didn't even share much emotion at all.

You seemed cold toward other people. Disconnected. More logically dominated in conversations with people that you should love and be vulnerable with.

Like, all of these things affect one another.

And again, those things are from your childhood, which then affect you in adulthood, and then that's actually what creates the fear, which perpetuates into a belief that has been carried most of your life.

That the world is not a safe place.

That there is no abundance.

That there is no possibility.

That we have to just survive to get by day to day.

That life is just more miserable than ever.

That people are just so disconnected from each other.

And you're probably not even gonna want kids or have a family because you don't want to bring children into this world.

And then you adopt beliefs about women or men.

And it's just this perpetuating cycle of misery and fear and shame and guilt and all of these emotions that keep us stuck in our lives, which is called autopilot.

And the thing is, though, right, is that, like I said at the very beginning of this, that is a perception.

That is a way of seeing the world, but not for what the world actually is.

It's just that social media and everything, and the internet in general—news and stuff like that—it perpetuates and feeds this fear energy that we have inside of us.

And it starts to get bigger and bigger until it consumes us.

And we're not able to make rational decisions.

We're not able to see things clearly for what they actually are.

Because there are actually people out there in this world that are extremely happy, but being happy is not what you think it is.

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